Melissa Lester Olson, LCSW
a women’s therapy and counseling practice in atlanta ga
Coming Out Late in Life Group ATL

W2W Resource List

BOOKS

  • Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women’s Love and Desire by Lisa Diamond, Harvard University Press 2009
  • Late Bloomers: Awakening to Lesbianism After 40 by Robin McKoy, iUniverse 2000
  • Dear John, I Love Jane by Candace Walsh, Laura André, and Lisa Diamond, Seal Press 2010
  • Switching Teams: What Coming Out Later in Life Taught Me about Love, Conquering Fear, and Embracing Change by Dawn Elizabeth Waters, Dog Ear Publishing 2015
  • Lesbian Epiphanies: Women Coming Out in Later Life by Karol L. Jensen, Routledge 1999
  • Married Women Who Love Women, 2nd Ed. by Carren Strock, Routledge 2008
  • And Then I Met This Woman: Previously Married Women’s Journeys into Lesbian Relationships, 2nd Ed. by Barbee J. Cassingham and Sally M. O’Neil, Ph.D., 1999
  • Living Two Lives: Married to a Man & In Love with a Woman, 2nd Ed. by Joanne Fleisher, Create Space Independent Publishing Platform 2012
  • How To Be a Happy Lesbian: A Coming Out Guide by Tracey Stevens and Katherine Wunder, Amazing Dreams Publishing 2002
  • The Straight Girls Guide to Sleeping with Chicks by Jen Sincero, Touchstone 2005
  • The Joy of Lesbian Sex by Emily L. Sisley and Bertha Harris, Simon & Schuster 1978
  • Sexual Intimacy for Women: A Guide for Same-Sex Couples by Glenda Corwin, Seal Press 2010
  • UnClobber: Rethinking Our Misuse of the Bible on Homosexuality by Colby Martin and Glennon Doyle Melton, Westminster John Knox Press 2016
  • Walking the Bridgeless Canyon: Repairing: Repairing the Breach Between the Church and the LGBT Community by Kathy Baldock, Heidi Mann, Wendy Danbury, Bellamore Phillips, and Jerry Reiter, Canyonwalker Press 2014
  • What the Bible Really Says About Homosexuality by Daniel A. Helminiak, Alamo Square Press 2000

WEBSITES

  • autostraddle.com
    Autostraddle is a serious labor of love. A group of friends wanting to start a revolution and their creation is now the world’s most popular lesbian website, with over one million unique visitors and 3.5 million views per month.
  • alatelifelesbianstory.com
    Blog with great articles by a woman who came out late in life, also found on Huffington Post
  • thegavoice.com
    Amazing website with tons of great info, check out the Best Bets page for local events and happenings and the Religious Organizations page – tons and tons of great info – lots of reading
  • georgiaequality.org
    Two amazing organizations with slightly different missions – this website is a great way to get informed on legislative activities, get active and/or financially support civil rights efforts
  • pflagatl.com
    The GA chapter of the national organization, this is a great first stop for everyone with lots of basic questions about sexuality, a FAQ section for “beginners,” support groups where EVERYONE is welcome, advocacy, education and more. Local meetings listed.
  • hrcatlanta.com (Human Rights Campaign)
    The oldest lesbian/gay political action committee in the US, HRC addresses this country’s lesbian and gay legal and civil rights history, the status of current anti-discrimination laws in the United States and HRC’s ongoing activities to fight for equal rights. This website is Atlanta-focused. A visit to the HRC GA page indicates GA has NO anti-discrimination laws addressing sexual orientation OR gender identity.
  • gayborhood.com
    A private website that promotes businesses and events related to gay life – local and national. Very fun website, great newsfeed/blog that covers all aspects of gay life. Recently spotted – “For ladies who love the ladies – 5 ways to up your dating game.”
  • LiLLY Late in Life Lesbians (FB page that requires invitation, email Andrea at latelifelesbian@gmail.com)
  • projectq.us/atlanta
    From the website: “ a distinct take on the news, information, events, attitudes – and the juicy dish and buzz – that impact our lives”
  • fetlife.com
    from the website: “Like Facebook, but run by kinksters like you and me.”
  • southernfriedqueerpride.com
    from the website: “an Atlanta-based queer and trans, arts and advocacy organization and festival celebrating the vibrant communities of the Southern United States”

DATING WEBSITES

Create a new email address that does not identify you. Use a non-identifying photo in your profile.

DATING APPS

HER
Bumble
OkCupid
Tinder
The League
Clover
Fem
Hinge
Pink Sofa
…just to get you started 🙂

COMMUNITY

  • Atlantapride.org
  • Trulia (real estate wesbite) ranks Avondale Estates, GA one of the 11 Most Lesbian Friendly zip codes (30002) in the US
  • Meetup.com – Look for Explore by Category, then choose LGBTQ
  • Atlanta Gay Christians Meetup Group (meetup.com/Atlanta-Gay-Christians/)
  • Gwinnett Lesbians Meetup (meetup.com/Gwinnett-Lesbians-Meetup/)
  • Eastern Gwinnett Lesbian Meetup (meetup.com/Snellville-Lesbian-Meetup/)
  • Social Events for Gay & Lesbian Professionals Meetup Group (meetup.com/gaypros-223/)
  • Women’s Outdoor Network (wonatlanta.com)
  • Onyx Pearls Southeast Munch (meetup for women of color over 21 years of age interested in bondage/discipline/sadism/masochism; meetup.com/Onyx-Pearls-/Southeast-Munch/)
  • Fox Mountain Camp and Artistic Retreat
  • Atlanta Coffee Talk for LesBeans (meetup.com/Atlanta-Coffee-Talk-for-Lesbeans/)
  • Fulcrum Meetup (LGBTQ support group, meetup.com/meetup-group-qoblSiYX/)
  • Lesbians Off of 400 (social group for lesbians less than an hour from SR 400, meetup.com/lesbians-off-of-400)
  • Monthly Gathering for Queer Folk OTP (from a personal contact, email jensaltzman@gmail.com)
  • The Rush Center: A Community of Mixed Use Members
    Multiple LGBT organizations – GA Equality, Atlanta Pride, Sojourn, Just Us Atl, ITLA, event meeting space

SPORTS AND PHYSICAL ACTIVITY

  • Hotlanta Softball League – Founded by LGBTQ community in 1981 0 over 500 teams
  • Decatur Women’s Sports League – basketball, softball, bowling, volleyball, more
  • Atlanta Team Tennis Association – Atlanta affiliate of the Gay and Lesbian Tennis Alliance (GLTA)
  • Atlanta Rollergirls
  • Women’s Outdoor Network (wonatlanta.com)
  • All Stripes (public group of LGBTQ and allied supporters of Atlanta United FC, allstripesatl.com)

COMMERCE

  • Atlanta Lesbian and Gay Chamber of Commerce (atlantagaychamber.org)
  • gayyellowpages.org
  • gaypages.com
  • gaylesbiandirectory.com
  • Liberator Bedroom Adventure Gear (liberator.com)
  • Junkman’s Daughter Alternative Department Store
  • Barking Leather (adult leather clothing and accessories)
  • Tokyo Valentino Erotique (sex toys and products)

NIGHT LIFE AND EXPERIENCES

  • Trapeze Club (swingers’ club)
  • My Sister’s Room (bar in Midtown Atlanta)
  • 255 Tapas Lounge (restaurant/bar in Castleberry Hills district)
  • Smith’s Olde Bar (bar with live music in Midtown)
  • Joes on Juniper (bar in Midtown)
  • MJQ Concourse (dance club in Virginia Highland, Wednesday nights very popular)
  • Sound Table (dance club in Inman Park area)
  • Sister Louisa’s Church of the Living Room & Ping Pong Emporium (bar in MLK District)
  • DoReMi Karaoke (Korean Karoke in Duluth)
  • Mary’s (gay bar in East Atlanta)
  • 1763 (bondage/discipline/sadism/masochism “dungeon” in Tucker)
  • Eddie’s Attic (live music; lesbian artists draw a largely lesbian audience)
  • Bellissima (facebook.com/bellissima.atlanta/ – FB page dedicated to lesbian-friendly Atlanta nightlife)

SPIRITUALITY

Please see thegavoice.com for a comprehensive listing of gay-affirming churches, synagogues, and places of worship

  • Spiritual Living Center of Atlanta (Sunday talks, classes near Brookhaven)
  • Center for Spiritual Living Midtown (Sunday services, meditation in Midtown)
  • Unitarian Universalist Metro Atlanta North (Sundary services, religious education, community events in Roswell)
  • Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Atlanta (Sunday services, religious education, & community events near Brookhaven)
  • Unitarian Universalist Northwest Congregation (Sunday services, religious education, & community events in Sandy Springs)
  • Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Gwinnett (Sunday services, religious education, & community events in Lawrenceville)
  • The Gathering Place Worship Center Atlanta (Christ-centered Sunday services, meetups, Spanish church near Brookhaven)
  • Saint Mark United Methodist Church (Midtown)
  • The Catholic Shrine of the Immaculate Conception (downtown)
  • Central Presbyterian Church (downtown)
  • Congregation Bet Haverim (North Druid Hills)
  • Central Congregational United Church of Christ (North Druid Hills)
  • Congregation Beth Tefillah (Sandy Springs)
  • Unity Atlanta (Sunday services, adult education, Peachtree Corners/Norcross)
  • St. Bartholomew’s Episcopal Church (Toco Hills)
  • The Episcopal Church of the Epiphany (Candler Park)

EVENTS

  • Annual Pride Festival (Atlantapride.org)
  • Ladies Rock Camp/Girls Rock Camp – multi-day music workshop
  • Sex Down South Conference
  • Atlanta Streets Alive (bicyclists)
  • Frolicon (“where nerdy meets naughty” – annual bondage/discipline/sadism/masochism event – attend anonymously)

RECOVERY

  • Narcotics Anonymous www.na.org/meetingsearch
  • Alcoholics Anonymous www.atlantaaa.org (look for meetings tab)
  • AA/NA Galano Club (Midtown)
  • AA The Triangle Club (Roswell/Sandy Springs)
  • AA St. Bartholomew Episcopal Church (Toco Hills)
  • AA Branan Towers (senior, subsidized living in East Atlanta)
  • NA Central Presbyterian Church (downtown)
  • SMART (Self Management and Recovery Training) www.smartrecovery.org (Johns Creek meeting is especially LGBTQ-friendly)
  • Women for Sobriety www.womenforsobriety.org
  • Women’s Sobriety Book Club & Other Recovery Events (meetup.com/Womens-Sobriety-Book-Club)

 

To share additional resource information for this list, please email me.

And thank you!